Signs a Guy is Into You

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  1. EDCHAT®

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    This question is one of the most popular ones we get from our female readers.

    It’s funny how the answers have evolved over time, especially with the power of technology.

    Below are our top five signs a guy is into you.

    1. Text messaging.


    We are huge advocates of old-fashioned communication, like picking up the darn phone and calling a lady when a guy is interested in taking her out, but we also understand the power and popularity of text messaging.

    Unfortunately, too many guys hide behind text messaging, but it still remains one of the top signs a guy is into a girl.

    Flirting, innuendo and quickness to respond via text are powerful hints he is interested.

    We recommend women play the text flirting game with guys early on, as it is often more comfortable for a guy to relax and open up about things he might be otherwise uncomfortable talking about in person or over the phone.

    2. Compliments.


    When a guy compliments a lady about her hair, eyes, shoes/dress or body, these are telltale signs he is more than interested.

    For example, he says something like, “Wow, you look amazing tonight! I love that dress on you,” or “Did you do something different with you hair? It looks awesome.”

    Trust us when we say that guys will absolutely NOT compliment a woman they are not attracted to. Guys will just keep to themselves and not say anything when the attraction is not there.


    “If a guy brings the girl around

    his friends, that’s a huge sign.”
    3. Body language.


    It is said in behavior that 93 percent of communication is nonverbal and 7 percent is the actual words themselves. As such, it is important to clue into his body language.

    Simple things like casually touching your arm or hands when he is talking to you are strong signs.

    In addition, pay attention to how he greets you.

    Does he prefer a handshake, a casual “Bro hug” (like he does with his fellas) or a firm yet expressive hug? Each sends a different message, with the latter being more of an expression of attraction.

    The same thing goes for a post-date goodbye. If a dude lays a handshake on a girl after a date, that’s a sure sign he is NOT into her.

    We always coach guys on their first few dates to give the gentle kiss on the cheek and a nice warm hug to end the evening.

    Ladies, it’s important to note that guys love the chase, so the longer you can hold out on the big kiss or the invitation into the house at the end of the night, the better off you are.

    4. The look.


    Nearly all men have a wondering eye, even the married guys of the world. Let’s face it, men are visual creatures and we like to look, but when just looking turns into “the look,” it sends an entirely new message.

    The look is borderline akin to a guy flat out starring at the girl until the point she catches him and he provides a gentle, guilty grin.

    When this happens, the girl should automatically assume the guy is attracted to her.

    5. His friends.


    Early on in the dating dance, most guys will hold off bringing their new date around their guy friends until they are ready.

    Guys want to know the girl can hold her own, show up like a “lady” and also be a great extension of him. Until these three boxes are checked, a girl will not be introduced to his close guy friends.

    As such, if a guy brings the girl around his guy friends rather quickly in the courting phase, that’s a huge sign.

    So ladies, if you have been dating him for months and have yet to meet his friends, chances are high he sees you as an “around the way girl” (ie. a hookup).

    What signs do you look for that tell you a guy is into you? Which of these signs have you seen before?

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  3. missbookworm

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    I have also seen these signs when my boyfriend was still courting me before. I knew that he was really into me, but I didn't let my guard down easily. He didn't give up on pursuing me, and he would always prove to me how special I am in his life. Eventually, we became a couple, and he still does all those sweet things to me until now. :)
     
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    I think I knew that my husband (then boyfriend) was into me back then because he always comes back. You know, when we have a fight, even though we threaten each other that we'll leave, we would still come back to each other. And that's what he does as well, whatever fight we have or problems we have, he still came back to me. He would be there outside the door waiting for me to open it up. And that's just how I know that he's more than into me.:p
     
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    Your article actually put a smilde on my face and brought back a lot of memories.

    While most of these are true in general, not all will be applicable in one guy.
     
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    This is a great article. I have seen just about all of these signs in past relationships. These signs hit the nail on the head that a guy is really into you. Just reading this brought back some memories.
     
  7. Jason76

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    "The Look" would probably be the main sign. However, sometimes those looks coming from the wrong guy or done in an overkill fashion can seem creepy and harassing. Guys are always looking at girls, but it does freak me out when I see another one do it. I guess cause normally guys want to repress such emotions to seem cool and in control.
     
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    Talking about look, it is honestly a bit biased on a female part. When a man who a woman fancies gives her that look she is on the 9th cloud but if it from a man who she doesn't care about turns really annoying.

    Sometimes, it is just out of curiosity and then things get misinterpreted.
     
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    I have manifested most of these signs when I am about to like or court a girl. This is reality. It really does happen. I think this is taken from an actual survey for a certain study. Psychologists are studying these things. Psychoanalysts as well are using these manifestation for a good counsel or advice they may give to their clients who are problematic about their friend actions or actuation towards them. Good information I should say.
     
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    It depends, if he's confident or flirty you would've noticed, but if he's like 90% of guys out there he doesn't really know what to do so he hides it/isn't brave enough to go and talk to you
     
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    If he really is into you, I think whatever happens in your relationship, he will still come back. When things get really hard with the both of you, he might withdraw for a particular time, take a break and rest but when he is better, he still comes back to you.
     
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    I had an experience where this guy I knew was always complimenting me and holding my hand at times. But then when I observed him with other girls he was doing the same thing. It turns out he wasn't into me and is just a really nice guy.
     
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    There are lots of touchy-feely guys out there that could really confuse you. They'll hug you, touch you and talk to you like they're interested in you but that is just who they are. I tend not to not assume a guy is interested in me until he comes out and says so. It has saved me from embarrassment a time or two
     
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    He will do everything decently and in order if he is truly and seriously into you no matter what it takes, how long it takes or wherever it takes him.
     
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    How to Know if a Guy is Into You.
    When you like someone and you feel like the feeling is mutual, you want to be sure not to embarrass yourself, right? Fortunately, there are some clear signs a guy likes you that clearly tell he has a crush on you, too. Look out for signals that a guy subconsciously sends that can reveal that he's into you. Even his feet can show you he’s interested in you in more than a friendly way.
    • He is nervous around you-When we talk to our crush, we stutter, do and say awkward things, and act like the weirdest person ever
    • His body language says so -A guy in love will be looking at you a lot, watching your every move. He will lean toward you and try to make eye contact as much as possible. Another good indicator is the direction of his feet: if they're pointed toward you, it's a subconscious sign that he may be interested.
    • He touches you often -Pay attention to how he touches you and how he reacts when you touch him. He may hug you tightly when he sees you or touch your hand — it can be anything. This all hints at the steady possibility that he's into you.
    • He treats you differently-If the guy likes you, he will start to behave protectively toward you and perform gentlemanly and caring moves.
    • He shows a sudden interest in your hobbies -The sudden interest in what you're doing can be a sign that he really likes you. When we fall in love, we pick up our boyfriend or girlfriend's hobbies because we want to know more about them and their world.
    • He turns up in places you don't expect him to be -If you continuously bump into each other outside of school, work, or any other place you see each other often, it might mean that he's deliberately looking for opportunities to “accidentally” bump into you.
    • He constantly asks you questions -Asking questions shows his interest in you and indicates that he either wants to keep the conversation going or wants to know every single thing there is about you.
    • He remembers everything you told him -If, during a conversation, you often notice that he remembered what you told him a week or 2 days ago, the name of your favorite band, or the fact that you hate olives, that counts for something
    • His friends act a bit strange around you -If his friends are smiling or smirking like they know something you don't when they see you, they probably know he likes you.
    • He doesn't use his phone when he hangs out with you -If a guy doesn’t check his phone when he’s with you, it means that he's interested in your personality and values your conversation and time together.
     
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    This is actually accurate, I have a lot of guy friends and I have asked them what are the little things they do to the person they like to send signal that they like that person. They always told me that they will make little efforts, they always text the person to check on them and always compliment them if they have chance.
     
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    When a guy is into a lady is as plain as these words here. I believe love is like a cough. You cannot hide it. A guy who loves a lady will go into any extent to show signs of the same. The lady will also feel something.
     
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    Yes, I saw all of this signs in my husband when we were dating. I would just add that he doesn't like having long calls with anyone, but I remember, we used to have very long calls, whenever we were apart, or we texted each other, though he doesn't like talking on the phone for long.

    So, if you have a partner who doesn't like talking on the phone more than two minutes, and he still calls you and you talk for hour(s), I think that it is also a sign he is into you.
     

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