3 Tips That Will Increase Your Success with Women

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  1. EDCHAT®

    EDCHAT® Indexer
    Staff Member Verified Member

    Nov 24, 2010
    EdChat Karma:
    When it comes to being good with women, there’s actually a lot of things that can influence your success.

    Today’s list focuses on one major trait many guys seem to overlook – uniqueness.

    Being unique is a quality that’s incredibly important to women, but it’s also the one thing that makes us who we are.

    Instead of doing what everybody else does, you should aim to be different and give women a reason for wanting to be with you.

    1. Stand out from the pack.

    One of the most common mistakes men make is to COMPLIMENT women ALL THE TIME.

    This may be a good idea if she’s average looking and doesn’t get much attention, but OVERDOING it and or just doing it with beautiful women will do nothing but place you in the same basket with all of the other men who compliment her day in day out and aren’t able to see behind her looks.

    Some men take this to such extremes that even average-looking women quickly realize they can do better.

    You need to understand the only difference between average-looking women and gorgeous women is the fact hot women are very aware of how they look.

    Everyone tells them the same thing every day, and if you approach them with the classic “You look beautiful” line, you’ll just show them you’re no different from any other guy out there.

    If you want to be different, try talking and treating women like equals and act normal – because you are talking with normal people!

    2. Become interesting if you want her to be interested.

    In order to seduce women, you need to have a unique personality. Women find unique personalities interesting because it takes them out of the mundane.

    This means you not only need to demonstrate value and quality personality traits from the get-go, but you also need to prove your life is something more than the “I work, eat and sleep” stereotype.

    First impressions are key here, so make sure you also keep an upbeat attitude.

    It’s good to get her talking about herself, but in the process, make sure you show her you have a PERSONALITY.

    This is easily done by simply NOT being so overly impressed about what she says. Don’t argue with her, but don’t act all that impressed about the fact she’s a waitress.

    You’ll be shocked just how many guys act overly impressed about the simplest things in women’s lives just because they think that will get them laid.

    If she asks you for drinks, don’t just buy them on the spot. Make her work for it (ask for a kiss or something) enough to justify why you have to buy her a drink.

    Most guys just do it and that instantly shows women just how easily controlled they are.

    Women test men when they ask them for drinks. If you instantly buy one, you’ve failed the test.

    Always be wary if she directly asks you for drinks and don’t offer to get any until you’ve got some sort of chemistry going.

    As for your overall personality, make sure you demonstrate that you have goals and values in your life.

    These are things like NOT taking s**t from anyone, wanting to leave that manager position and open your own business, having many friends, etc.

    Women don’t fall for money and power. They fall for THE INVESTMENT.

    If you want to know how to seduce women, then you need to learn how to sell yourself as a valuable investment.

    You can be the poorest and most worthless guy in the world but if you can show her you are a valuable investment, that’s what will get you the girl.

    “If you add your own experience to what

    she’s saying, that connection will grow.”
    3. Know how to have a conversation.

    As you probably know, what you say to her and how you say it is what will eventually get her to sleep with you.

    This means your conversational skills are absolutely paramount when it comes to seducing a woman.

    Every Tom and John uses cheesy and weak pickup lines like “Hi, (compliment). Can I buy you a drink?”

    So if you want to be unique, DON’T resort to such degrading lines and especially DON’T continue the conversation like this:

    You: So what’s your name?

    Her: [Her name]

    You: What do you do for a living?

    Her: I’m a French teacher.

    You: How old are you?

    Her: [her age]

    You: Where do you live?

    Her: What’s with the 21 questions?

    When it comes to holding a decent conversation, this is WHAT MOST GUYS DO. These dudes just don’t get the fact that she is NOT a robot that answers random questions.

    It’s easy to approach women. It’s even easier to open up a conversation.

    Examples that will work 10x better:

    Find something unique about her appearance and compliment that.

    Example #1: “Hi, I really like your [item of clothing]” – make sure it’s something fairly unique.

    Or you can just ask her a question about herself, her opinion, the situation or the place.

    Example #2: “Hi, do you know where I can get some [whatever] around here?”

    Finally, use one of the best and most underrated approaches:

    Example #3: “Hi, I’m [name]. You are?”

    In order to make yourself unique, the real skill lies in your ability to hold a decent conversation.

    So instead of jumping from subject to subject like a machine, try to actually listen to her and ask related question about her answers:

    You: So what do you do for a living?

    Her: I’m a French teacher at our local primary school.

    You: That’s interesting…I wonder – isn’t it kind of difficult working with kids?

    Her: Yeah, it kind of is sometimes, but I find it very fulfilling.

    You: Yeah, when I was a kid, I did all sorts of stupid things to upset my teachers.

    Her: Haha, I guess we all did that didn’t we?

    You: I think you’re right, hah! So why French? How did you decide to teach that?

    Her: Well I was in France for a few years and I really enjoyed it there.

    You: Really? I always wanted to go to France, but I can barely speak the language. So did you study in France or…

    And it goes on and on.

    What you need to do here is ask another question that seems to be related to the initial question. This way she won’t get bored nor will she feel like she’s at an interview.

    She’ll be able to talk for hours about her life and feel that she has someone she can connect with.

    If you also add your own “related” experience to what she’s saying, that connection will grow even bigger. Before you know it, she’ll be into you.

    This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free ebook I give out.

    If you want to increase your success with women, visit ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.

    Guys, are you going to use these tips to increase your success with women? What do you do to try to connect with women more?

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    Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and relationships. Apart from working on his Ph.D. in social psychology and writing for DatingAdvice.com, he also owns two dating advice websites. Both are places where the "dating" mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of succeeding with the opposite sex. If you’re a man and want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com. If you’re a woman and want to improve your love life’s success, visit http://TheSingleWomanGuide.com.
  2. Dora M

    Dora M EdChat™ Nomad

    Mar 16, 2014
    EdChat Karma:
    I would say most women, just like men, are looking for an intelligent partner who understands their way of thinking, their needs and feelings.
    What is most important to me in a man, is his integrity. I don't care so much about his flaws or character weaknesses, as I have plenty of my own. I look for something much deeper. It's that feeling, that whatever happens, we understand that it is never personal, but a situation brought about by many different factors. And that we can deal with it, learn from it, and understand that it will strengthen our relationship if we work through it together.
  3. WestCoastXO

    WestCoastXO EdChat™ Nomad

    Apr 20, 2014
    EdChat Karma:
    I'm glad to know I do all these things already! Women enjoy a good time, but also look deeper than that into a person's character. Being interesting and unique is probably the most important tool to getting a woman's attention. If you can make her smile and laugh every time you see her, you'll have a much higher chance of hitting it off quickly and easily.
  4. thestoryteller1
    Caffeine Fix

    thestoryteller1 EdChat™ Nomad

    Dec 25, 2013
    EdChat Karma:
    Those things would most likely work, but I would add an * under them- when doing all of that, you can do more than you would usually, that's making an effort. Don't overdo it and present yourself as someone completely different than you are though, because that can very easily backfire. For the most part, if you end up having a relationship with that girl, if you were acting completely like someone you're not to get her, you probably won't be able to keep that up for long. I suppose if you're just trying to hook up with someone you won't see again, then it would be okay.
  5. DDavies

    DDavies EdChat™ Nomad

    Apr 19, 2014
    EdChat Karma:
    I find a man's character more important than his "uniqueness". I've dated "unique" men who were selfish, dishonest, egomaniacs. Women are like men; we don't want you to pretend to be someone you aren't and we end up disappointed when the real you finally comes out.
  6. c.shielaann

    c.shielaann EdChat™ Esquire

    Dec 17, 2018
    EdChat Karma:
    Every woman is different. But if I look for three things in a man here it is.

    1. Sense of humor. Nothing beats a funny guy. Women like to have laughs and to have a man to talk to with humor it a jackpot for me.

    2. Man who listens. Its not always about the laughs. Of course there will be bad days so you just want to vent out everything. Its always good to have a guy who knows how to listen and make and make you feel better afterwards with a good laugh. .

    3. A bestfriend. Yes, you have to be the type she can count on everytime, be it good and bad days. She wants to have someone cheer for her in the crowd and tell her she sucks but still watch everything until the end. A friendship is a good way to start a relationship. So you just have to be cautious not to be friendzoned.

    Well thats for me, i dont know for other women out there. But if younhave theses three traits you can definitely win a heart of a woman who want.
  7. healthyfit07

    healthyfit07 EdChat™ Nomad

    Jan 12, 2019
    EdChat Karma:
    Here are 3 ways to improve your success with women. By implementing these, you will see big improvements in your overall life as well as in your success with women.
    1. Stop reading all dating forums for two weeks. Bar yourself from reading, writing, or replying to any posts on any internet dating science forum. You will discover that time spent working on yourself is more valuable that arguing, debating or defending any aspect of dating science.
    2. Start reading a GREAT novel and carry it around with you whenever you are out and about. It gives you an excuse to sit in a café and chill (with plenty of opportunities to speak to women around you) and can even get women opening you if they recognize the book.
    3. Every time you talk to a girl for longer than 5 minutes in the daytime, ask her out to do some activity with you in the next few days.
  8. Andrijana15

    Andrijana15 EdChat™ Esquire

    Apr 1, 2020
    EdChat Karma:
    Well, if you are looking for a one night girl, those tips would be okay somehow. But, if you are looking for a relationship kind of girl, don't do it if that is not you.

    You just have to be yourself, be natural. If you are pretending to be somebody else from the beggining, maybe she won't like who you are, maybe she would like who you really are, but you would not have a chance to know.

    If she likes you for who you are when you're pretending, after some time when you can't act that way anymore, she will certainly be disappointed, and you can lose her trust.

    Just be yourself, if she likes you, that's great, but if she doesn't like you, she doesn't. Get over it. It's better than to pretend that you are someone you're not.

    I mean, you wouldn't like it either if she was the one pretending at first, would you now?

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